Moet Abebe and Tolani Baj take the helm as the hosts of a captivating new podcast, “Bahd and Bougee.” In their inaugural episode, they embark on a journey of self-introduction and explore the multifaceted realm of relationship boundaries.
Moet Abebe introduces herself as someone with unwavering determination and a profound focus on self-discovery. She humbly acknowledges her imperfections, emphasizing her readiness to learn and unlearn in the pursuit of personal growth.
Tolani Baj, on the other hand, presents herself as a woman of immense power, influence, audacity, and a heightened sense of self-awareness. Her candid nature shines through as she expresses a deep commitment to authenticity and owning her actions and decisions.
Together, they delve into the crucial topic of setting and respecting boundaries in relationships. Both hosts agree on a foundational definition of boundaries as guidelines and rules that contribute to the enhancement of a relationship. They underscore the significance of boundaries in enabling individuals to understand what to expect from one another, thus fostering mutual respect for personal space, comfort levels, and limitations.
The hosts also offer insights into their own personal boundaries within relationships. Moet reveals her reluctance to date someone residing on the mainland, adding that she requires her partner to be available to visit her home at 11 pm when called. In contrast, Tolani highlights her boundary against dating individuals from the entertainment industry.
Distinguishing between boundaries and controlling behavior, they concur that boundaries serve as a means of communicating needs and expectations to one’s partner, while being controlling involves manipulative attempts to steer a partner’s actions according to one’s own desires.
Further enriching the conversation, Moet and Tolani share their top five relationship red flags, offering valuable insights into what they consider warning signs in partnerships.
Tolani’s red flags include; Lack of a passport, Excessive public dancing on social media, Exhibiting physical aggression, & Overdependence on one’s mother (Mommy’s boy).
Moets’s red flags encompass; Excessive verbosity, Displaying controlling behavior, & Neglecting self-care.