Nigerian singer Simi is sparking conversations across social media after calling out men for overlooking postpartum recovery and focusing too much on themselves after childbirth. In a widely shared video clip, the award‑winning artist urged men to put the wellbeing of their partners and newborns first, challenging a familiar cultural narrative that quickly centres attention on “the daddy” after birth.

The comments came as Simi marked a joyful personal milestone, the 38th birthday of her husband, Adekunle Gold with heartfelt tributes that also featured their daughter, Deja, reciting a poem. Rather than spotlight her spouse exclusively, Simi used the birthday moment to highlight the significance of care, compassion, and shared responsibility in parenthood.

In the video, she directly questioned men who complain about not being asked “how’s the daddy?” immediately after their child is born, saying the focus should be on the wife’s recovery and the baby’s health. Social media users quickly reacted to her post, praising her perspective as refreshing and necessary in a society where postpartum challenges are often overlooked or trivialised.

Simi’s message resonated with many women who said that men sometimes expect attention or validation at a time when their partners are physically and emotionally vulnerable. Some fans jokingly referenced how men ask for comfort foods like pepper soup for postpartum recovery, but still centre their own needs before acknowledging the significant efforts mothers make in childbirth and early childcare.

In Nigeria and many other cultures, postpartum recovery, which is the period after a woman gives birth, is critical for healing physically, emotionally, and mentally. Yet discussions around it are often limited or overshadowed by celebrations focused primarily on the baby or the father’s experience. Simi’s comments invited more attention to the reality that mothers require support, rest, and care even as celebrations unfold.

Some fathers responded positively, agreeing that compassion and practical support should be extended to their partners. Others acknowledged that cultural norms may have shaped their expectations, but said the conversation was a step toward more balanced parenting roles.

Simi’s birthday post for Adekunle Gold included affectionate phrases like calling him her “impregnator,” which resonated with fans for its humour and intimacy. The inclusion of their daughter Deja’s poem added a family‑centred warmth to the tribute, but Simi’s accompanying remarks shifted the tone toward a broader conversation about respect, empathy, and shared caregiving.

By linking her comments on postpartum recovery to a personal celebration, Simi brought nuance to a familiar narrative. Rather than presenting motherhood as a backdrop to her husband’s milestone, she elevated the experiences of women and encouraged men to pay attention to the often unseen work of healing and bonding after childbirth.

Fans echoed this sentiment online. Many women praised Simi for vocalising something they felt but rarely saw discussed publicly. Some shared their own experiences of recovery periods that lacked adequate support, while others said they appreciated the gentle but firm reminder to men about the realities that follow the joy of a new baby.