In a recent episode of The Honest Bunch Podcast, Big Brother Naija star Doyin shed light on the importance of open and honest communication between parents and children regarding sexual matters. She highlighted the prevalence of parental reluctance to engage in such conversations, emphasizing the detrimental impact of this silence.
Drawing from personal experience, Doyin recalled openly discussing her loss of virginity with her mother. This openness was facilitated by her mother’s creation of a safe and supportive environment for such discussions.
“When I lost my virginity, I spoke to my mum about it. I said, ‘Mummy, this thing did not feel this way.’ And we had a conversation. She was like, ‘Okay, this is what you should do. Do you use a condom?'” she shared.
Doyin emphasized that her mother’s open-mindedness enabled her to confide in her regarding her sexual experiences. She further stressed the importance of creating an environment where children feel comfortable asking questions and learning about sex.
“Parents need to create that kind of environment where their kids can open up to them. There’s nothing I cannot say to my mum. I wasn’t enjoying sex for a while and I told my mum. I asked her, ‘Am I circumcised?’ Because I read somewhere that if you’re circumcised, you won’t enjoy sex. And she was like, ‘No.’ She didn’t make me feel bad about it. She suggested things I should do,” she continued.
Doyin imparted a crucial piece of advice, emphasizing that if children are not receiving sex education from their parents, they are likely learning about it from other sources, potentially unreliable ones.
“So, sex education starts from the house. Parents need to create that kind of environment where their kids can speak to them about anything. At the end of the day, it’s either they’re speaking to you or they’re speaking to someone else,” she asserted.