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TONTO DIKEH SHARES THREE TIPS ON HOW SINGLE MOTHERS CAN NAVIGATE THE CHALLENGES OF PARENTING

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Single parenting can be very challenging as the job is originally for two people, but different situations can make one become a single parent. While raising one’s child as a single parent is not a walk in the park, some people have found ways to do this effortlessly.

Just recently, Nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh shared three tips on how single mothers can be intentional about raising their kids and also ease the burdens on their shoulders.

The single mother of one took to her social media page to share the tips.

Read what she wrote below:

BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILDREN
You must be intentional with building a relationship with your children. Their dad is absent, and you must make sure you build a friendship with them; an atmosphere of vulnerability and openness where they can talk to you about anything at all. Parenting is like a war between you and the world and you have to win by spending time with your kids or else the world will snatch them from you and instill bad values in them.

EXPOSE THEM TO CREDIBLE MALE MENTORS
If you know men who share same values with you; values you’d love your children to imbibe and cultivate, expose them to these men; could be a friend, uncle, pastor, coach, but please make sure they are trustworthy to avoid sexual abuse because a lot is happening. If you must expose them to male mentors as female children, please teach about abuse, let them know what it means to be touched inappropriately, and make them feel safe to open up to you.

SAVING AND EARLY PLANNING
As a single mom, sometimes it gets overwhelming to cater for the financial and material needs of your children, and you must adopt the system for saving. Open an account for them where you periodically drop some amount there. It doesn’t always have to be for a particular purpose but for unforeseen dry days. Plan! Don’t leave things to chance. If I I want to go on a vacation with them, start planning early enough. This way you don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

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BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILDREN. You must be intentional with building a relationship with your children. Their dad is absent, and you must make sure you build a friendship with them; an atmosphere of vulnerability and openness where they can talk to you about anything at all. Parenting is like a war between you and the world and you have to win by spending time with your kids or else the world will snatch them from you and instill bad values in them. EXPOSE THEM TO CREDIBLE MALE MENTORS If you know men who share same values with you; values you’d love your children to imbibe and cultivate, expose them to these men; could be a friend, uncle, pastor, coach, but please make sure they are trustworthy to avoid sexual abuse because a lot is happening. If you must expose them to male mentors as female children, please teach about abuse, let them know what it means to be touched inappropriately, and make them feel safe to open up to you. SAVING AND EARLY PLANNING. As a single mom, sometimes it gets overwhelming to cater for the financial and material needs of your children, and you must adopt the system for saving. Open an account for them where you periodically drop some amount there. It doesn’t always have to be for a particular purpose but for unforeseen dry days. Plan! Don’t leave things to chance. If I I want to go on a vacation with them, start planning early enough. This way you don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

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