Things To Do When You Want To Stop Being A Side Chick

Side Chick

No sane woman actually sets out to be a side chick. True, some women may set out to have an affair or a fling with a married man; however, no one intentionally falls in love with a married man.

Whether the love affair is mutual or one-sided, being in love with a married man rarely works in your favor in the end. In fact, it often brings on nothing but pain and heartache. However knowing that, and doing something to change it, are often two different things.


Once you have decided that continuing the relationship is only going to bring you heartache in the end and that the relationship is unlikely to end without you taking affirmative action, it is time to do something about it. Here’s how to end it with a married man for good.

Get a distraction.

Even if you are faithful, the bottom line is that he is not being faithful to you and you owe him no loyalty. Get out and open yourself up to other possibilities. Ending a relationship when you are still in love with someone is hard to do, but it can be easier if you can open yourself up to another relationship, or at least the possibility of a sexy distraction.

Ask more. 

If you have never actually asked for money or gifts, start asking. If you do typically ask, ask for more. While he may acquiesce to begin with, he will eventually get irritated with your requests, leading to a rift in the relationship. In the meantime, stash the money or gifts in case you are left financially worse off when the relationship finally ends.

Let it all hang out.

Let your bad side show. As he has likely only shown you his good side, you have probably done the same. Now is the time to let loose; complain, cry, yell and develop expectations. In short, act as though this is a normal relationship. You will likely be surprised at how quickly Mr. Wonderful loses his cool and you start to wonder why you ever fell in love with him in the first place.

Finally, and most importantly, focus on loving yourself. Ask yourself why you accept the “crumbs” thrown to you by this person. Remind yourself that you deserve love and that you are worthy of a real and loving relationship.

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