What Your Fight With Your Partner Say About Your Relationship
Are you the couple who doesn’t care who hears you at the supermarket or the ones who silently huff and puff under their breath? The way you fight with your partner can reveal more about your relationship than you think. Couples typically develop a consistent fighting style, which reflects who they are as individuals and as a unit. If you tend to have calm and constructive arguments, you might experience the occasional blowout, but overall, how you approach conflict will remain fairly steady.
You are both passive aggressive.
You guys aren’t “fighting,” but if anyone else was in the room, they’d definitely be able to cut the tension with a knife. When there’s clearly an issue but neither of you want to address it, it shows two things: you aren’t comfortable expressing your concerns to each other or one of you is afraid of what will happen if you do. Neither one is healthy. It should make you ask yourself why you aren’t able to practice effective communication with each other. Your relationship isn’t open and honest if you have to hold things in to avoid rocking the boat.
Your fights are explosive and volatile.
You probably have an incredible sex life and an exciting relationship full of passion. But sometimes that passion can turn into rage, making your arguments emotionally exhausting. While you love each other like crazy, you are always on a roller coaster because you never know how one of you will react to something. Many abusive relationships are characterized by these kinds of fights, but even if it’s not to that extreme, they’re still toxic.
One of you doesn’t want to hear it.
It’s a problem if one partner wants to discuss a problem right away while the other refuses to deal with it. This kind of couple typically has to chase each other to solve things and their relationship has underlying issues that have yet to be fixed. It means one of you is coming off too aggressively or isn’t handling things in a way that make the other partner want to get involved. Things in this relationship can be one-sided — one partner makes all the decisions while the other doesn’t care enough to contribute.
Your fights are civil and end resolved.
You have a healthy relationship and aren’t afraid to bubble up concerns as they arise. You are receptive to each other’s feedback and respect what they have to say regardless of whether or not you agree. You have an understanding and balanced partnership because you both want what’s best.