WHAT DJ ZINHLE WILL NOT APOLOGISE FOR
DJ Zinhle has poured her heart out in her latest blog post. The mother of one, who’s had a year of ups and downs, reflected on some of the things she used to believe in while growing up. She also touched on the criticism she has received since falling pregnant.
She wrote: There are many things that I thought I knew for sure when I was young girl. I thought I knew what was best for me despite what my parents were telling me. I thought I knew it all and no one could tell me anything. Looking back, I feel embarrassed by half of the things I believed. Some of these thing where not completely wrong, but maybe the way in which I interpreted them, was wrong.
As I grew up, going through tertiary, relationships, friendships, starting a business and encountering numerous other events in my life, things have changed. Many of my beliefs have shifted. The thing about growing up is that as you grow and as life throws you between sadness and joy, between pain and healing, your mind starts opening up. It’s called experience.
I have been subjected to a lot of criticism ever since I fell pregnant. People seem to think that they know what is best for me and if I do not agree then I am seen as a bad mom and a horrible person.
I have had to grow a tough skin and stand up for what I believe in. I am growing and learning and yes, I will make mistakes, we all do, but I have made a list of the things I will not apologise for.
I will not apologise for having dreams and pursuing them despite people thinking that just because I am a mom, I shouldn’t work hard.
I will not apologise for loving and raising Kairo the best way I can. My hopes and dreams for her are beautiful and are from a place of love.
I might not always do things in a way which people agree with, but my intentions are always to make sure she has the best life.
I will not apologise for being beautiful and taking care of my body, even after having a baby, because who said beauty was reserved for those who are not mothers?
I will not apologise for the things that make me happy. I will always follow my heart, we all deserve happiness. My promise is that I will not hurt anyone intentionally or steal anyone’s joy.
I will not apologise for my body. This is who I am and anyone who cannot accept me and love me for who I am is not deserving of my time.
I will not apologise for demanding the best from love because anyone who loves me half heartedly does not deserves the honor of carrying my heart in their hands.
I will not apologise for believing in respect and good values because even though being a good person can be interpreted as boring, I trust that there is good in all of us and we shouldn’t be afraid to show it.
I will not apologise for my past and the decisions I made because they made me who I am and I wouldn’t want to be anyone else or anything else.
I will not apologise for my upbringing because if shaped the strong woman that I am today, Kairo’s mom, the kind and compassionate person who knows that she is not perfect and will never be perfect but will always be her best and show kindness to others.
I will not apologise for who I am.
We have all been judged at some point in our lives and most people who do the judging fail to realise that we are all on a different path. One person’s ways are not the way of the world. Sometimes people fail to realise that they don’t even have enough experience in a specific subject to even offer advice or judge.
We all need help and guidance but none of us deserve to be judged for who we are. I believe in being a good person who cares about others but I do not believe in compromising yourself, your dreams and your beliefs to impress others.
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