“No baby, she is just a friend…” – Every Cheater Ever.
I want to start this off by saying that men and women can definitely be platonic friends. However, this article isn’t about platonic friends. It is about the kind of female friends who pose a legitimate threat to your relationship.
These female “friends” aren’t actually friends, per se. They are women who want to sleep with your partner or are already sleeping with him behind your back. At times, they are aware that he’s taken and just don’t care about how much it hurts you to know that. Other times, though, they could be totally unaware that the guy you are with is even dating someone.
Regardless of whether they know or not, women who fit into this category are an issue that you need to talk about with your partner. It takes two to tango, so it’s your partner’s responsibility to make sure that you feel secure with him.
Is she more than a friend? If you notice any of these signs, you may have to have a talk with your man.
She flirts with him.
The vast majority of girls know when other women are acting inappropriately with a guy. If she’s flirting and talking about sex with him, she’s crossing a line that shouldn’t be crossed… and he’s letting that happen. Nip that in the bud.
He puts her needs over yours.
There is a difference between “friends over hoes” and putting special attention on one friend over your partner. If he consistently chooses her over you or doesn’t seem to care how uncomfortable you are with her, there’s a very good chance that she’s not “just a friend.”
She makes a point of avoiding you.
Most of the time, female friends of significant others will want to make friends with the girlfriend because they want their friend to be happy. If she’s avoiding you, you should wonder why she does this. Is it shame? Or, is it because your partner has asked her to stay away?
People have asked you if you are really okay with the relationship he has with her.
Most people will stay quiet unless they’re very sure that they aren’t being unreasonable with you. If you have people approaching you about a girl’s role in your partner’s life, you should be worried.