7 Personality traits that predict if he’ll be a good (or bad) boyfriend
Relationships are complex, regardless of you and your partner’s personality styles. But depending on which traits you both exhibit more or less of, they could determine how good or bad the relationship will be.
3. Neurotic: Prepare for heated moments with someone who has a more anxious and volatile personality. Being neurotic can interfere with relationship satisfaction in multiple ways, says Shpancer. “Neurotic individuals tend to be highly reactive to stress and prone to experiencing negative emotions. These tendencies are likely to radiate onto the partner and create problems over time.” Neuroticism can also damage a couple’s sex life, lowering sexual arousal and satisfaction in both people. #4. Agreeable: A person with a high level of agreeableness is usually warm, friendly, and tactful. They generally have an optimistic view and get along well with others. While it’s easier to have relationships with these types of people, the truth is, all relationships will have disagreements at times. It’s just how you get over them. “Realize that not every disagreement needs to be an argument. Of course, this doesn’t mean you bow to someone else’s demands when it’s something you feel strongly about, but take the time to question the level of importance of the matter at hand,” says life coach Stacey Hagen.
5. Outgoing: It may be easier for an extrovert to land dates, but harder for them to actually stay in relationships. “Extroverts tend to be happier, more socially connected, and more charismatic than introverts. On the other hand, this can undermine relationships because it is associated with adventurism,” says Shpancer. In other words, extroverts might prefer short-term relationships without exclusivity over committed relationships.
6. Sensitive: If you’re in a relationship with a highly sensitive person, plan on being loved deeply, but take caution in how you react their emotions. Dr. Elaine Aron, author of “The Highly Sensitive Person,” writes that it can hurt when a sensitive person’s emotions are viewed as a weakness. “The sexual style of a sensitive person will be more loving, caring and intimate,” adds relationship expert Dr. Nikki Goldstein. “It doesn’t mean that sex with them can’t be wild, but you most likely will find [that] during the wildness, intimacy and closeness is still there.”
7. Stubborn: Ever try to change the mind of a stubborn person? You probably won’t. And if you’re with someone who is so set in their ways, you’ll be the one making most of the sacrifices. “Someone who is more stubborn, especially on a bad day, might not be up to any compromises in or out of the bedroom. They’ll try to have things go the way they want them to,” says Goldstein.